I’m Engaged… NOW WHAT?? First five things to do after you are recently engaged

It’s easy to concentrate ONLY on the wedding and the many details that come with it. Remember, this is all about your relationship as a couple. Keep loving, talking, and caring for each other throughout the process.

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There are FIVE THINGS you need to do first after you’re engaged:

  1. Create a budget.  Not just an overall budget, but a fairly detailed budget.  You will come in high on some and hopefully low on others,  but it’s a good start.  My advise is  to be realistic.  For example, you will not find a decent photographer for the entire event for $500.  Call around and find out what the going rate is for each of the vendors
  2. Determine what is and is not important to you before you start this process of looking for vendors.  For example, if live music during the ceremony is not important, do not let someone talk you into a $500 guitarist.  Shopping vendors is like grocery shopping, it’s easy to  experience impulse buys.
  3. Secure vendors in a logical order.  Resist the temptation to secure all the fun ones first (like the dress).  Know that the location venue, DJ, and caterer are going to be the most important in making the night successful.  Things like cake and flowers are certainly important, but rarely do you see guests walk away from a wedding talking only about the cake and flowers.
  4. Don’t underestimate the value if a seasoned wedding officiant.  He or she must come highly suggested and maybe even watch a past video of him/her for yourself.  Those who have t he mic can make or break the night more than others.
  5. Keep working on the relationship even while planning the wedding.  It’s easy to concentrate ONLY on the wedding and the many details that come with it.  Remember, this is all about your relationship as a couple.  Keep loving, talking, and caring for each other throughout the process.

 

pastor randy williams has been doing wedding for 25 years.  15 years in arizona.  he can be reached at www.phoenixweddingpastors.com

Marriage quote by Barbara Angelis

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The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make – not just on your wedding day, but over and over again – and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.

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